Being women, we get judged day in and day out. Whether it’s regarding the way we look, our weight, our clothes, being too confident, being too shy and even, trying to take the lead in a relationship at times. I mean, is it okay for a woman to earn more money than a man? Is it alright for a woman to wait till she’s in her 40’s to get pregnant without being judged? Is it okay for a woman to play the boyfriend card and try and get her man back without being frowned upon? Women tend to be more emotional than men and often try to make up with their other half. But is it OK to revive your relationship if it is not worth it?
It all comes down to your dignity
We, as a generation, are experiencing a shift in everything we know. Technology is changing every single day of our lives, whether we notice and accept it or not. If you think about the dating game in general, we’re even experiencing the normality of online dating. Referring to the 90’s and early 2000s, or any time before that, online dating didn’t exist. When it was presented to the world, it was not supported by the majority of society as it seemed dangerous to talk to a complete stranger over a computer or smart device.
Considering that something like Uber has also been normalised from being a foreign concept of not getting into cars with strangers, it is the next best thing for having to get somewhere and not having to be worried about your safety.
The point is, times have changed. It took a long time to get to this point where the shunned concepts became standard, as did the idea of playing almost the most significant role in a relationship.
Women used to be scared of expressing their feelings or being too bold in a relationship, but the entire game has changed.
You know that superhero idea of a man that saves the woman or gets that girl… Well, the tables have turned, and it’s your time to get your guy and go about it in the right way.
Now, this could play out to be either really good or really bad. The key is to check yourself and not sacrifice your dignity. No matter how desperate you are, it’s just one thing that should never be recognised or shown. This will help you get your man back and help you do so without losing your confidence or getting hurt because chances are you’re already hurt in some way.
Thinking to revive your relationship? First, remember why you broke Up…
So, now that we’ve established that you have to hold onto your dignity for dear life before actually considering the idea of getting him back, you need to establish exactly why you broke up. Perhaps the answer to this question is relatively simple. Perhaps there are many reasons why you broke up, and maybe you’ve even broken up several times. It doesn’t matter what the case is. If you really want him back, you have to go the right way about it.
Another question to ask yourself first is, how hurt are you and why are you hurt. You should definitely start dissecting your feelings about it now because you don’t want to get into it. Halfway down the line, you decide that you really don’t want him anymore and that you were just hurting.
It’s essential to take time after a break-up to analyse why you broke up and whether or not the relationship hurt you in any way. For instance, you might break up because he didn’t value you, treated you in the wrong way, treated other girls in the right way or were too friendly with other girls while dating you. In that case, you need to take a moment and ask yourself, do you really want to put up with that and is the relationship going to be good for you? Does it worth the time and effort to revive it?
Was Your Relationship with Your Ex Really Worth It?
If he did treat you in a bad way or at any point made you feel negative or bad about who you are and your self-worth, then chances are it’s in your best interest to let him go. The same goes for wanting to take him back if he’s cheated or disrespected you. This is also the part where dignity comes into play again. Is he really worth it?
Know Your Self-Worth Before You Decide To Revive Your Relationship
So, why do you want him back? Because if the reason is solid, then we’ll get right on it. But, if you’re reading this and second-guessing yourself and second-guessing him and the type of boyfriend he was to you previously, you should probably move on, but if he’s great and precisely what’s good for you, go get him, girl!
Emphasising the significance of yourself cannot be stressed enough because women are more impacted by how a guy treats them than they treat a guy. This is the one difference between a woman and a man. Yes, a man can be emotional and have feelings, but the norm is they don’t express themselves as girls do. If a man breaks up with a girl he likes, perhaps he’ll wallow for a while, maybe he’ll move on immediately… The thing is, guys have a way of not showing their emotions, and women do.
If a guy breaks up with a girl, whether they’ve been dating for long or not, the girl will feel in some sense that she did something wrong, and that’s got to end.
Knowing your self-worth and whether a man deserves you (without being vain about it) or not is the first thing you have to realise before starting the process of wanting to take him back. It’s never okay to sacrifice your heart for anything or anyone. Women aren’t weak; they just tend to have a lot more emotions and empathy than most men and thus have to protect their heart.
So, step one, know your self-worth, girl and protect it. Don’t let anyone make you feel unworthy, underestimate you, hurt your feelings, or ruin your efforts. Before you decide to revive your relationship, remember why you broke up in the first place and if this guy worths the effort again.